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January 16, 2008 urngarden.com

vintage postcard

Tim had an interesting post on Final Embrace regarding internet shoppers and how they’ve affected the funeral industry. The internet has made a dent in the funeral director’s world. But the funeral director needs to look in the mirror.

Cue up Cher, “If I Could Turn Back Time”. On the local scene I’ve interviewed funeral directors that left me shaking my head. Several years ago, we (me, myself and I) surveyed the local market to determine what the cremation landscape was like. The numbers reflected growth, but were low compared to other parts of the country.

Frankly, what I saw was a market not being properly served. Insert disclaimer here: “We do not actively pursue sales in the state of Missouri.”

I was looking at the big picture, reading the trades, looking at the projections. I knew that the growth was there.

So the conversation on the local scene was a surprise, when these middle aged men admitted that:

  1. Cremation was growing
  2. Cremation families usually didn’t purchase an urn
  3. Many of their cremation clients HAVE money and choose not to spend it at the funeral home.

While discussing sales numbers with an experienced gentleman who retired from the highest volume operation in SW MO, he was surprised at the number of urns I sold per month. Waaaay more then he imagined.

Another operator who morally despises cremation, admits that cremation is now 30% of his business, and continues to climb said, “If I was 20 years younger, I’d do things a lot different.”

Right. What are you doing today?

And the real kicker? The one that still makes me smile: “Buying an urn on the internet is undignified.”

Why? Is it because I’m not wearing a suit while I run the client’s credit card?

Some funeral directors have told me they have “exclusive” arrangements with their vendors and only carry what said vendor doles out. This usually comes from the director that just said the families aren’t buying an urn.

I understand about relationships with your vendors and I’m all about the service. But if the product is not working for you or your families… then maybe it’s time to look at options that DO serve your interests. I have years of experience dealing with sales weasels representatives and trust me, if you are a good customer, your “friend” will do what is necessary to keep your business.

Most of my clients are Boomers and X’rs. Most know what they want, many have been to the funeral home and didn’t find what they were looking for. And some, well, I’m doing the funeral directors a favor by shielding them from the frustration of the family that googles “cheap urn”.

Note to self: Add category for cheap urns.

As a consumer, I don’t want to spend a great deal for funeral goods. Most people I know feel the same way. Certain members of my family prefer burial and that wish will be honored with services likely to be held at the funeral home. Personally, I like one stop shopping. I don’t see myself shopping online for a casket. But if $5000 is the national average for a burial, it’s still more than I want to spend.

Today’s Thought for the Day: Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

Dali Lama

Filed Under: Advertising, Confessions, cremation, funeral service, pet urns, urn jewelry, urns Tagged With: funeral directors, funeral homes, internet marketing

Green Theme Funeral Urns

January 9, 2008 urngarden.com

Greetings from the deep blue sea! Every magazine I’ve picked up lately has a “green” theme, and more press releases touting the green burial movement, so we were inspired to amp up the biodegradable urn line.

Naturally, we’re dreaming of somewhere tropical right now, so we started work on the water burial urns.
sea burial urns

Articles for families considering spreading ashes on land or sea, or perhaps planning an ash scattering ceremony can be found here.

We’ve noticed heavier traffic for families searching for outdoor themed urns, specifically hunting and fishing. Funeral homes might consider grouping urns by hobbies, interest and style if you aren’t already.

biodegradable urn

Filed Under: ash scattering, cremation, Memorial Service Ideas, urns Tagged With: biodegradable urns, ceremony for ash scattering, green burial, spreading ashes at sea

Warm and Fuzzy Pet Ramblings

December 14, 2007 urngarden.com

kitten chrismtas postcard

When we dug the garden, we did a lot of research but somehow completely did not plan for the pet aspect of the business. Well, we’ve encountered several passionate pet owners the last few years.

Here’s what we’ve learned:

We’re crazy for our pets, but never thought we’d be one of those people that turn music on for them when we’re away (I do), or call and leave messages so the pampered pooches could hear our voice (my neighbor). Until starting this business, I’d never considered keeping the ashes of any of my pets in the home. When the time comes, I plan to scatter my border collie’s ashes and probably bury the ashes of my Bichon.

pets in cars

We recently discovered that an animal lover aunt has saved the ashes of almost every pet she’s owned. Over the years, so many urns have accumulated she keeps them in a plastic storage tub in the closet. She can’t bear to part with them.

The client in New York who had the ashes of her dog’s amputated leg stored in a keepsake, and came back later to buy another urn for the rest of the dog after he passed.

A customer in Texas, complained that the lid on one of our metal pet urns was too hard to get off. We explained that our lids are designed that way, for a secure seal. Most people aren’t opening and closing the urn repeatedly. What’s up with that?

Client explained that one of his other dogs was depressed over the loss of his doggie friend and client’s vet told him to let the grieving dog sniff the ashes to reassure and calm him.

I’d like to have Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer weigh in on this.

And then the words we hear so often, “we don’t have kids (or the kids are gone) and the dogs are our babies.”

Although we’re partial to the canines, cat lovers are crazy for their kittys, and we’ve encountered some ferret lovers. One girl in south Florida who was involved in a ferret rescue, and was so pleased with our service that she told all of her friends about us on the ferret chat board.

I had no idea.

Who knew that some pet owners buy or build homes based on their pet’s needs (Great Danes in New York)? One friend built a house and designed a killer grooming station for her three dogs. This friend has Bichon Frise and even threw a dog party for Bichon owners that was great fun.

My Rock wore a cumberbun with a sanitary napkin to the party, so he wouldn’t pee everywhere.

bichon cumberbun

At a recent visitation I ran into an old school mate that was raising exotic cats in Branson. My friend Soozie has had tarantulas and hermit crabs, now she’s got a couple of rats. Not guinea pigs, not the little white lab rats. These are the sewer rat variety purchased from a pet store. Her family LOVES the rodents!

And now my friend Candace is mourning the loss of her pet rat Lennon. Is there a rat chat board?

And then the pet owners that have instructed family members to include the ashes of their beloved pets to be buried with them.

So far, I’ve never had a request for a reptile urn.

Filed Under: cremation, pet urns, urns Tagged With: death of a pet, pet urn, pet urns, Pets

The Rhythm of the Breath

December 14, 2007 urngarden.com

christmas postcard

Nutty week in the garden: Friday Yoga was a gift. The best. My teacher has introduced a style of seamless breathing that helps quiet the mind and relax the body. I find myself using it when I start to feel anxious. Usually I picture a figure eight as I concentrate on a smooth inhale and exhalation. Today, as we focused on the breath, this image came to my mind.

cremation urn jewelry

I used the shape of the Infinity urn pendant to guide my breath. Sounds crazy, but today my mind was unusually active. I decided I must have this urn necklace in gold. Not to use as an urn, but to remind me to breathe.
Today’s tip for better living: Stretch your side body!

Filed Under: Advertising, Fitness, Memorial Service Ideas, mental health, urn jewelry, urns Tagged With: urn jewelry

Crash and Burn

December 3, 2007 urngarden.com

dirt bike
Motorcycles are a passion in the garden. And we’ve been thinking about the riders in our lives that have went down this past year.

Evel. Candace has a great perspective on this.

Sweet James who recently died from injuries sustained in a crash.

Dan Feather who died on his dream bike two weeks after he got it.

Keane Moss,17 and James De Anda, 19 on their dirt bikes. The helmet pictured below was used at the memorial.

Kevin Umlauf, trials and enduro rider. I remember when we were kids, Kevin was doing a wheelie on asphalt, lost control and completely scrapped the hide off his back and legs.

And then a guy I met a couple of weeks ago, Ronnie, who was hit on his bike in Branson on his way home from work on a Monday night during the first week in November. Driver was on her cell phone. Ronnie was invisible. He lost his leg, but not his life.

He looks pretty good, but is pretty pissed off. He worked a server in a Branson restaurant. His insurance has already dropped him and he’s trying to secure disability. And build his upper body so he can learn to walk.

motorcycle memorial

Have a great week!

Filed Under: Advertising, ash scattering, Confessions, cremation, Memorial Service Ideas, mental health, obituaries, Sports, urns Tagged With: Dan Feather, Evel Knievel, James De Anda, James Rogers, Keane Moss, Kevin Umlauf, motorcycle tank urns, motorcycle urn

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