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Full Bird

March 11, 2008 urngarden.com

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Most of the time, the calls we field are families in distress, and occasionally, like any business, you get the odd bird. The Colonial, for instance.

This gentleman insisted that I address him by his “first” name “The Colonial”, and he had questions.

I had answers.

Next, we moved to his favorite topic. HIZ SELF and his many great accomplishments in military service. Wow! If it was true, I might like to know more, so I asked for his full name. “Why? you gonna look me up?” He asked. “Sure.” I said, “Have you ever Googled yourself?”

“Uh, no.” he answered.

“Well. You must be CLASSIFIED,” I said, “there’s nothing here.” He responded that indeed, all of his work was TOP SECRET.

Agreed. Because, what I didn’t mention? The only information that came up under his name was sex offender info.

heritage flag and medal case

Filed Under: Confessions, cremation, Memorial Service Ideas, mental health, urns Tagged With: firefighter urns, flag cases, military urns

Doris Duke

March 10, 2008 urngarden.com

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The movie “Bernard and Doris” was on HBO a couple of weeks ago and after watching it, we wanted to find out more about Doris Duke, The tobacco heiress had a $1.2 billion estate that was the subject of much litigation. A New York judge ordered the removal of two co-executors of Duke’s $1.2 billion estate. The court found that Duke’s butler Bernard Lafferty was squandering her estate to support his “profligate life style” and that United States Trust Company failed to slow down Lafferty’s spending.

Duke was cremated 24 hours after her death and her ashes scattered over the Pacific Ocean, Lafferty sent a small container of the ashes to Marshfield, Missouri, a town that Duke had grown to admire during her years as a world traveler. Duke had visited Marshfield during a large tent revival, where she enjoyed the music. Duke’s ashes were buried in a local cemetery and a stone was placed to honor her memory. She was locally known as a philanthropist since she often sent large sums of money for various projects, frequently without publicity.

Marshfield, MO?

Here’s a sample of her last will and testament:

LAST WILL AND TESTAMENT OF DORIS DUKE

I, DORIS DUKE, a resident of and domiciled in the State of New Jersey, do hereby make, publish and declare this to be my Last Will and Testament, hereby revoking all wills and codicils at any time heretofore made by me.

ONE: A. I direct that there be no funeral service or memorial service of any kind for me and that I be buried at sea.

B. I give my eyes to THE EYE BANK FOR SIGHT RESTORATION INC., New York, New York, and I hereby ratify all that anyone theretofore may have done toward carrying out this gift.

FOUR: A. The following loans were owed to me as of August, 1991:

1. DR. ROBERT NIXON: Fifty-Eight Thousand Dollars ($58,000)

2. ELEANOR LAWSON: Sixteen Thousand Five Hundred Dollars (516,500).

3. FRANCO ROSSELLINI: One Hundred Fifty-Eight Thousand Dollars ($158,000).

4. VERA CYCKMAN: Ten Thousand Dollars ($10,000).

5. EDWARD LEIATO: Thirty Thousand Dollars ($30,000).

6 RAPHAEL RECTO: One Hundred Thousand Dollars ($100,000).

I direct that, to the extent that these loans shall be outstanding at the time of my death, such loans shall be forgiven.

B. I direct that my Executors make reasonable arrangements with IMELDA MARCOS (or the legal representatives of her estate, if she shall not survive me) for the repayment of the Five Million Dollars ($5,000,000), plus accrued interest, that I loaned to her pursuant to a demand note dated March 6, 1990, such repayment to be made when Mrs. Marcos and the Philippines government settle their financial dispute or at such other time as my Executors shall deem appropriate in their absolute discretion.

3. If I shall be survived by a dog owned by me and residing at my death at my residence known as Falcon’s Lair, in Beverly Hills, California, I give such dog to the caretaker of such property at my death or, if such caretaker is at any time unwilling or unable to care for such dog, to one of the foundations created under this Will or of which I was a member, director, trustee or officer at my death which is caring for other dogs of mine. If I shall be survived by a dog owned by me and located at my death at Falcon’s Lair, I give and bequeath the sum of One Hundred Thousand Dollars ($100,000) to my Trustees, to be held by them in a separate trust for the benefit of such dog, with the income and principal thereof to be disposed of as follows:

a. My Trustees, at any time and from time to time, shall apply such part or all or none of the net income and principal of the trust for the benefit of such dog, at such times and in such amounts as my Trustees, in their absolute discretion, shall deem necessary for the care, feeding, comfort, maintenance and medical treatment of such dog, even though any such application or applications may result in the termination of the trust. At the end of each year of the trust, my Trustees shall accumulate and add to principal any net income not so applied, any such capitalized income thereafter to be disposed of as a part of such principal.

b. Upon the earlier to occur of (i) the death of such dog and (ii) twenty-one (21) years after my death, the trust shall terminate. Upon such termination, the principal of the trust remaining at that time, and any accrued and undistributed income, shall be added to my residuary estate and disposed of in accordance with the provisions of Article EIGHT hereof.

Sources: Wikipedia and Court TV

Filed Under: ash scattering, cremation, obituaries Tagged With: Bernard Lafferty, burial at sea, Doris Duke will, memorial service

Goodbye Nelda Pt. 2

February 25, 2008 urngarden.com

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Funeral Report from PA:

The flowers were beautiful and the service was very nice..Nelda had asked the minister to do the service when Pauline’s mother died , she had picked the Legion and the caterer so most of it was done….there were 75 or more there and they stayed for the lunch and for about 3 hours after.. I have discovered an upside to cremation …you can bring the person home with you and that seems to make it easier somehow…Matt (Nelda’s grandson) gave a short eulogy and there was not a dry eye in the house as they say…he turned out to be the perfect choice…Nelda would have been so proud of the turnout….she always worried that she had no friends…..love to all in MO…..d

To my knowledge, Nelda is the first member of our family to be cremated. And for sure the first one to reside in the home AFTER the funeral. The plan is to scatter her ashes at a later date.

Filed Under: ash scattering, Confessions, cremation, Memorial Service Ideas, obituaries, urn jewelry, urns Tagged With: ashes scattering

Goodbye Nelda

February 10, 2008 urngarden.com

Nelda T. Dierwechter Ward, 86, of North Manheim Township, PA., died Thursday evening upon arrival at Good Samaritan Regional Medical Center.

Born in Schuylkill Haven, PA she was a daughter of the late William H. and Florence M. Hummel Dierwechter.

She was a maintenance worker for Boscov’s Department Store, Pottsville.

Surviving are a son, Lendal D. Neil, Fair Grove, Mo.; a daughter, Delphine O. Dierwechter Bohn, West Brunswick Township; a brother, Vernon L. Dierwechter, North Manheim Township; five grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; and a great-great-granddaughter.

Memorial services will be announced at a later date. Leibensperger Funeral Homes Inc., Hamburg, is in charge of arrangements.

Filed Under: cremation, obituaries, urn jewelry, urns Tagged With: nelda ward

Freaky Friday

February 9, 2008 urngarden.com

vintage valentine

What a week! And Friday topped it!

I had an appointment with a local client who wanted to see some items for her pet. On the way to the meeting, the phone rang and a friend of the client introduced herself as “J” and stated that she would be acting as a representative for the client. Long story short: the client had passed away the night before. She was 46.

Well, that was kind of odd.

Frankly I was a wee bit nervous, the client had special ordered several styles of our pet urns.

J was only interested in one item.

pet urn jewelry

The day before she died, client told J about our meeting and how special the necklace was and that when she died she could be buried with her “baby” close to her heart.

J found my number on her friend’s cell phone noted as “urn lady”.

Next: We pack up the urn for my grandmother.

Blue Cremation Urn

Dad sat in my living area used the laptop to pick out the urn.

Very courageous. As a retired firefighter from one of the busiest firehouses in the nation, he’s not exactly an advocate of cremation.In the car on the way to lunch, I asked my dad how he would eulogize his mother.

Silence.

Music UP: “I Did It My Way”.

Filed Under: Advertising, Confessions, cremation, Memorial Service Ideas, pet urns, urn jewelry, urns Tagged With: blue urn for ashes, paw print urn necklace, pet urn, urn jewelry

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