infant urn

The Last Word on Infant Urns

August 8, 2012 urngarden.com

Because it’s too horrible to think about. Last night I was catching up on some blog reading and I got sucked into the Funeral Sauce. He describes a trip to pick up a dead baby at the hospital:

“and she wasn’t in the morgue yet, so i brought a regular baby carrier so that i could inconspicuously carry her through the hospital with a blanket over it because they won’t let you just carry a dead baby through the hospital obviously…omg it was so terrible…we looked like brand new gay dads and everybody was staring. we were totally dressed the part.” Read more at Funeral Sauce.

She Carries Her Baby’s Ashes Everywhere She Goes

August 3, 2012 urngarden.com

One of our clients shared her story:

This is for my best friend, Danielle, we both found out we were pregnant on the exact same day. We were due within 2 days of each other. I found out I was having a boy and she found out she was having a girl. We were both 6 months pregnant and she goes in for her sonogram and the doctor can’t find any heart beat. Her baby girl is pronounced dead and she is heart broken. She watches me go on thru my pregnancy as she waits for her day to be induced so she can have her baby. She goes in on August 23rd to have her still born and she names her after me. The baby was so small that the only option the funeral home had was to cremate her. The date is coming up to mark the baby’s birthday and this is the gift I plan to give my best friend. She carries her baby’s ashes with her every where she goes and now she can have her close to her heart. Our kids should be turning 2 together this year… my best friend walked out of the hospital to see a butterfly float to her side and land on her arm. She came home to see yellow tulips that bloomed in front of her house in the middle of August. She knew it was her daughter looking down from heaven. She knew she was there with her. This gift would mean so much to her .. especially with her daughter’s birthday approaching fast. You will never understand how happy I am to stumble upon such a gift. I know this isn’t the kind of comments that you normally see .. I just wanted to share her story.. and thank you for reading.

She bought a vial for the ashes, a small keepsake with a butterfly. Thanks for letting us serve you.

Infant Urns: The Worst Part of the Job

July 26, 2012 urngarden.com

If someone asked me “What’s the best part of your job?” it’s that we are doing good works, helping families create an affordable memorial for their loved one. The worst part? From a technical aspect it would have to be dealing with Google. When you work in a digital world rankings matter. You have to be creative when it comes to marketing the product that no one wants to buy. So, when it comes to optimizing for infant urns, my stomach tightens and leaves me cold. Which triggers the emotional part of the question. I really don’t want anyone to have to buy an urn for their baby or child.

Most of the time it’s women who are making the purchase, but over the years I’ve noticed that when an urn is needed for a baby, often it’s the father or a male family member who places the order.

Years ago about three of us girls were standing around the office waiting for the clock to wind down we were excitedly talking about babies and we even touched on how awful it must be to lose a child . What? Why were we talking about that?

One of the girls was very pregnant and due to give birth at any moment. Turns out? She did deliver later that evening and let’s just say it was less than a joyous occasion.

So when she came back to work, my heart was breaking for her. Plus, it was super awkward when a baby encounter would happen in the hallway.

GRIEF TALK

Caitlin Doughty has experience with this difficult situation and in this episode of Ask a Mortician she talks about what NOT to say to someone who’s lost their child: